Thursday 30 June 2016

Knowing When to Stop (repeat)

I love travelling, but I find it more convenient to go 'public' because, that way I get to observe a lot of things. I observe how people eat, sleep, talk, even how people keep to themselves. Its fun to travel and see the world when you're not driving.

I'll be talking about how people eat today, I have to because of an experience I had last week. Celebrations are unavoidable, when good things happen in Africa we celebrate. This is when we display our new shoes, dresses, and different kinds of dishes are cooked and displayed for your sense of sight, smell and taste. For those of us that are of Nigerian descent you know you cannot mix some types of food. For example, you cannot have moimoi ( beans pudding, the best way to describe it) and pounded yam on the same plate. However, you cannot explain this to a foreigner, you might end up not eating because of the time you will spend explaining.

The preceding is just w preamble. I boarded the same bus the other day, with a woman who was coming from a party. It was a burial, but that doesn't kill the appetite. She had different kinds of food packed in a bag. After settling into her seat, she brought out the pack of pounded yam, she was telling her companion of just how delicious the food was. I watched her with keen interest as she leaked up everything, she was a good eater. She washed her hands and I thought it was over. Alas, the pack of rice came out too , then I began to wonder "which stomach is that going into?".

In life, we ought to know when to say stop to our appetites. Whatever the appetite might be for...food, sex, wine etc. Until we can rule them they might ruin us. The woman in question was obese to say the least, had issues with her knees because of her weight, yet she didn't know when to say 'stop'. No matter the diet or fitness regime we must learn when we have had enough for our body weights. Think about this, before you take the next bite.

Sunday 19 June 2016

What is the Colour of Love

Love, love, love. This word is so deep that some languages have more than one word for it. In Greek the word love is divided into Eros, Filio and Agape. The Eros is the kind of love a man or woman has for a lover/ spouse, while the Filio is the love for family members. The Agape on its own part is the unconditional love that comes by grace.

My question then is, if love is so different why do people struggle to keep it all? A young man gets married, then his mother or family begin to feel threatened that she is taking away his love for them. They simply do not know that it is possible to love his wife to the moon and back, and also love his family. The English language and many other languages have made the colour of love just one single shade, but it's not. There are different shades for  every one, you don't need to crave for the other person's shade in your special person's life. You mustn't ruin your family because you feel your special person love's the other more.

Are you in a mixed family and you feel your spouse loves his children more than he does you? That is simply not true, he has a hundred percent of Eros for you and the same amount of Filios for his children. Enjoy your relationship in the light of the Grecian definition of love, and don't  constrain yourself to a conservative definition. Go on and enjoy yourself! Cheers